"You've learned to take care of yourself first. That is a big change. It's jolting for people who expect you to be more accomodating. You appear selfish and rejecting, but only in contrast to how fawning and pliable you used to be. You're more impatient, self-righteous, and intolerant of other people's addictions and weaknesses".

-- Susan Shapiro, Lighting Up, p. 208