"Others cannot understand the vibrational content of your desires, and they cannot understand the vibrational content of where you are, so they are not equipped to guide you. Even when they have the very best of intentions and want your absolute Well-Being, they do not know. And even though many of them attempt to be unselfish, it is never possible for them to separate their desire for you from their own desire for themselves."

-- abraham, ask and it is given by hicks, p. 96.